Depending on what is comfortable for the directee, a director may begin the meeting in one of several ways: they may pray a prayer of invocation, and sit in silence with the directee for some moments until the directee feels ready to break the silence and begin sharing what’s happening for them; or sometimes the director begins with a simple question, “How has it been going since the last time we met?” Often there is some time for general conversation as both the director and the directee transition into the direction time. As the directee shares, the director will be listening and from time to time ask questions or make observations about the sharing. The director will “pace” the meeting, creating space around the sharings that seem to be tapping into the directees’ connection with God. The director will validate and encourage the directee, but will never rebuke, command or exploit the directee. Based on the directees’ sharing, the director may make suggestions about spiritual practices or experiences that the directee may want to explore in the coming month.
The directee shares about his or her relationship with God (as much or as little as he/she feels safe to share). Anything that is in the realm of one’s spiritual life is appropriate to share in the meeting with the director.